Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix
By Tara Schuster
Published October 8, 2025
Tara Schuster’s memoir‑manual blends messy stories with practical rituals for self‑respect: buy the flowers, write the note to yourself, clean your room, text your friend first, and say no without a novel of apologies. Self‑care becomes a discipline that makes your life sturdier and more joyful.
Key Lesson
Treat yourself like someone you’re responsible for caring for.
Self‑Respect Is a Practice
Book Snapshot
ISBN
9780525509882
ASIN
0525509887
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Full Summary
Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies argues that emotional adulthood is built from ordinary acts done consistently. Schuster’s rituals—morning pages, affordable treats, tidy spaces, therapy, and honest check‑ins—create scaffolding for tougher days. The point isn’t perfection; it’s momentum. As you keep small promises to yourself, self‑trust regrows.
The practical throughline is self‑respect. You can design a kinder internal monologue, protect your time with clear boundaries, and curate inputs that leave you better, not bitter. This book is less about grand transformations and more about a thousand tiny kindnesses that add up to a steady life.
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Key Takeaways
- Self‑respect grows from repeated, tiny rituals.
- Make self‑care concrete: calendars, scripts, tidy spaces, therapy.
- Curate inputs—friends, feeds, and habits that leave you better.
- Boundaries without apologies protect future you.